Why?

I totally agree with your post about how crappy people are to each other. Women always get the downside-usually in the divorce. As for why it is harder for you to allow your daughter to go with your ex instead of your girlfriend, I guess it is probably because you have less "control" when she is with your ex, and I dont' mean that in a bad way, that is just probably the way you feel. I know I fee that way with my stbx when my son goes with him. Good luck. Blessings
Penelope

Thank you for post it is greatly respected. I know control is a issue so no hard feelings. You spoke the truth so can't be mad at that. You know there is just so may lies being told it's hard to see what is true and what is just me being a prick. I'm sorry you have to feel the way I do. I wish you the best of luck with you're situation.

Sam27:

I am sorry to has taken me so long to get back to you. This is literally the first time ALL week I have been able to check my email. I also have control issues (which I tried to deny when I was married to my spouse). It is now something I am actually trying to work on so I guess that is why I can empathize with you and your situation. My son's dad is also not someone who I can trust because of his past lying and that makes it hard for me when my son goes with him, but I have to try and do what is right and what is going to make this situation "easiest" for my son. It can definitely be hard. As for the way other people act, I am amazed everyday by what I see, and by what I am having to deal with in my own life. What was it that Rodney King said after his beating by those police officers and subsequent riots, "Why can't we all just get along"? Maybe in a perfect world. Take care and feel free to message me if you need to. Blessings.
Penelope