What do I do

We all have these ones. The love that would last forever. I think that statement is a gamble and a risk don't you. I got my heart broken twice and third one was the charm we have been together ever since. I guess I got lucky at my gamble and risk it paid off. 25 years. You too will have another chance at this gamble risk called life. Don't worry we all are here to support you. In any way.

Hello, and so sorry for your loss.
I am going through the same thing, that person you thought was your best friend, now seems like a cold, stranger.

I am thinking the same thing right now, he seems to not really care that he left his Wife and Kids.
Like they were nothing to him.
I feel my eyes watering as I type (again)
Nothing in life feels normal at this moment and I have so many emotions.
Sadness, like a death in the family, fear, uncertainty, and anger off and on.

I cant imagine starting over, my self esteem is zero right now and I feel so lifeless.

Just try to talk here, it has helped me some.
When I hear of others going through the same, I realize I am not crazy and its normal to feel like this.

Carbo, they don't care. My ex left me for another woman and I wondered how he could live with himself and honestly, he didn't care. He decided he got to call the shots and it didn't matter what it did to me, my 25 year old daughter who was living with us or anything. My ex's justification was he never really loved me. In the beginning I believed that but after months of thinking and praying about it, I KNOW he used to love me but he had to say something to justify his stupid actions.

I too would say I want my life back until my mother pointed out to me that there was a vast difference between the man I loved and the man he was. The man I love would have never ever done this to me - the man he became I don't even recognize.

Trust me, you will get thru this and you will be amazed at your strength. And keep posting, this site is part of the reason I survived my divorce with my sanity intact.

I just feel like such a fool. Thanks for the support. I would like just one day without tears. Have a big beautiful 3 BR 4 bath blah blah blah,,,, I'm tempted to walk away with my daughter at my side and go to a nice apt. somewhere. We built this house and there's so much of our energy in it that I feel the walls closing in everyday all the time. He went to a really nice apt. all new and tidy no kid stuff just grown-up stuff so why can't me and Sarah just walk away and do the same thing together? Just thinking.

Do It..Sell the house (after the divorce) and move to a house that you can call your own and have nothing of him around you.

One day at a time. Leave that house sell it and start fresh and new. You can do this. right now it feels like your never going to but you will. Keep strong I will keep you in my prayers. Im will be here for you!!

I tried to keep "our" house in the divorce but didn't make enough money to keep up all the expenses that go with it. But then God blessed us (my daughter and me) with a new smaller house but so much more updated than the big older house we'd been living in. And there are no memories in this new house so we get to make all brand new ones.

It does get better and while I am not saying that walking away or selling the house is the perfect solution for everyone, for me it was definitely the thing to do.

Do what you need to do to make you happy. Don't forget that. The main thing is for your happiness.

Oh my...... thank you all for all of the encouragement and support. I feel in some small way that I now have permission to start thinking about what I want for me and my Sarah. Im still just so hurt that it's hard to see the light.

The hurt will become less severe over time. I never believed that old saying that time heals all wounds but it does. And one day you're going to realize that you are happy again and it will feel great.